Monday, December 22, 2008
Our women...
I've been thinking over something that I mentioned earlier about the shortsighted nature of religious filmmaking or storytelling. I mentioned that too often things were inevitably reduced down to the same basic question: What is or isn't true? There seems to be a need out there by these filmmakers to prove their faith through their art. The thing is, these films don't all start out with bad ideas... In fact, most of the initial premises are interesting enough. But then it's like these films can't help themselves from slipping into fast and testimony mode.
I'm not going to tell you that I don't sometimes share that impulse, but I will tell you that I've fought hard to beat it down because I really believe that it leads to bland characters and bad story. And below, I've gone into why I think that happens.
Over the past week or two, I've been having a discussion with my wife about how LDS film has treated women in general. Initially, this might come out wrong, so please bear with me while I try to write around this first statement... But I can't remember a single female character in any of the LDS films I've seen that's really stood out as interesting, worse I can't think of any instance where a female character was nearly as interesting as the male characters.
If I say 'character arc', do we all understand what I'm talking about? Essentially, as a writer, when I create a character I try to picture who this person is at the beginning, and I try to picture them down the road how I want them to end up. The arc of the character is the path through all of the obstacles and decision making that takes the character from A to B. Along that path, I try to design the reality of the story so that my characters will learn the lessons they need to learn, have the opportunity to choose right from wrong, etc. so that they can arrive at the end of the story. There are infinite branching paths for these characters, infinite choices, infinite desires.
And yet, all of these women seem to be reduced down to: If she's single, she wants a husband; if she's married, she wants children. That seems to be it. I have spent my life surrounded by interesting women, married the most interesting of the group. They have always been able to outwit both me and my guy friends. And they're always incredibly complex. While marriage and children are priorities (especially for the LDS ones) that is not the sum of who they are as people. So why should that be the end-all sum of any female character?
The initial premise of our story revolves around a young man being called to serve as the bishop of his ward. We knew that he'd have to be married, have a kid or two. And before we really sat down to lay out what our young bishop was like, we had a long discussion about who exactly his wife was and how we wanted the calling to affect her desires, goals and aspirations.
In fact, each of our core couples was created wife first, and then matching her with a complimentary spouse after we'd worked out her character. Because simply, I'm tired of being disappointed by women characters who always seem to be afterthought additions to stories that only need women as background players. Is this a shared concern? Comment below.
I'm not going to tell you that I don't sometimes share that impulse, but I will tell you that I've fought hard to beat it down because I really believe that it leads to bland characters and bad story. And below, I've gone into why I think that happens.
Over the past week or two, I've been having a discussion with my wife about how LDS film has treated women in general. Initially, this might come out wrong, so please bear with me while I try to write around this first statement... But I can't remember a single female character in any of the LDS films I've seen that's really stood out as interesting, worse I can't think of any instance where a female character was nearly as interesting as the male characters.
If I say 'character arc', do we all understand what I'm talking about? Essentially, as a writer, when I create a character I try to picture who this person is at the beginning, and I try to picture them down the road how I want them to end up. The arc of the character is the path through all of the obstacles and decision making that takes the character from A to B. Along that path, I try to design the reality of the story so that my characters will learn the lessons they need to learn, have the opportunity to choose right from wrong, etc. so that they can arrive at the end of the story. There are infinite branching paths for these characters, infinite choices, infinite desires.
And yet, all of these women seem to be reduced down to: If she's single, she wants a husband; if she's married, she wants children. That seems to be it. I have spent my life surrounded by interesting women, married the most interesting of the group. They have always been able to outwit both me and my guy friends. And they're always incredibly complex. While marriage and children are priorities (especially for the LDS ones) that is not the sum of who they are as people. So why should that be the end-all sum of any female character?
The initial premise of our story revolves around a young man being called to serve as the bishop of his ward. We knew that he'd have to be married, have a kid or two. And before we really sat down to lay out what our young bishop was like, we had a long discussion about who exactly his wife was and how we wanted the calling to affect her desires, goals and aspirations.
In fact, each of our core couples was created wife first, and then matching her with a complimentary spouse after we'd worked out her character. Because simply, I'm tired of being disappointed by women characters who always seem to be afterthought additions to stories that only need women as background players. Is this a shared concern? Comment below.
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What wonderful insight. My favorite female character of this genre is probably Charly who started out as a very complex non-member with her own ideas about life and religion who eventually opened her eyes to another world view. My least favorite character was the wife of Nephi in the Book of Mormon movie. Always supportive, never questioning. Give me a break, there had to have been SOME tension in that relationship, especially under those circumstances. It's human nature.
Joe Puente
UtahFilmWorks.com
P.S. I really enjoy your blog! :-)
I know what you're getting at but I'm not sure the generalizations mentioned describe every female character in all LDS films and there's plenty of flat male characters out there too. Sometimes the girls are watching the guys desperately trying to get married. I think The RM was like that. It's been a while since I've seen it but I seem to remember the male lead desperately trying to get married while the female lead had her own life and was open to getting married when the situation was right but wasn't going to rush into it. Pride and Prejudice seemed to be like that as well, with a female lead who did want to get married but was (relatively) content with being single until she met the right guy for her. Even then it's based on an old English novel.
I haven't seen it yet but I have Errand of Angels in my Netflix queue. It looks like it was the product of somebody being tired of seeing too many male-centric LDS movies.
I haven't come close to articulating all my thoughts on this but I think part of the problem is that many, not all, but many LDS women tend to live flat lives and have a hard time seeing beyond "getting married and having children." Maybe with more well-rounded female characters in LDS films (and TV series) that trend can start to change.
Christian... I'm going to fight you on that last statement. I absolutely disagree that LDS women lead 'flat lives', I just feel like the storytellers have come to rely so heavily on stereotypes that they crank out nothing but bland characters.
There is nothing inherently wrong (or bland, or flat) about marriage or raising children. And I absolutely think that making these decisions (husband, children) are two of the most important decisions any LDS member can make.
I've just felt that in film LDS women tend to be reduced down to hollow embodiments of those decisions, rather than giving us an in-depth analysis of the passions and desires that inspire those decisions. And that's where these women become uninteresting.
It's the reduction that concerns me. Too many times, my wife has turned to me during these films and asked, 'Is that all they think I am? Some limited, stunted waif whose only definition comes from what my husband can reflect onto me?' And of course, she absolutely isn't.
I'm not going to deny that there aren't flat, stock males in these films, too. But, like I said, I'm struggling to think of one memorable female. And that's just lazy writing/storytelling, and not an honest representation of our culture, we don't subjugate our women into nothing but wives and mothers. So why limit these characters to nothing but?
Don't worry. My "last statement" is not anything set in stone or anything to fight about or anything I would defend to the death. It sounded a little too concrete because I didn't have the time to round out my thoughts.
I'm just saying that in my life, my whole life, long before "LDS film" was really even an issue there have been a number of times where I'd see a female, usually somebody I've known for years, whose behavior makes me think, "Don't they know there's more to life than getting married and having kids?" But that has just been my perception of them and I can tell you that I don't go digging into someone's private life to find out if my perception is correct or not but write my passing thought off as a passing thought.
But I did have a father and husband who is very near to me who told me not too long ago, "My wife seems to not be interested in much beyond being a good mother to our kids. Should she really be nothing more than a wife and a mother?" I proceeded to give my forward thinking, progressive yet doctrinally based answer on the matter about how, yes, she should be those things but also a vibrant, progressive, educated and ever learning individual. He wasn't even the one trying to pigeonhole her into a rigid role. It was her. Fortunately I have reason to believe that's not the case so much anymore with her. But LDS women do hear quotes like the one from President McKay about how motherhood is the highest calling and how family is the most important social structure (all of which I firmly believe) and have to juggle many different roles the best they can and there may be times when all we see and perceive is that woman focusing on the "wife and mother" aspect of their lives.
Even now this post will be cut off before I round out all my thoughts. Maybe we can be the ones to create memorable female LDS characters. Keep characters in mind such as Lucy (from "I Love Lucy" . . . obviously) and Samantha (from "Bewitched") and Jeannie (from "I Dream of Jeannie"). All these characters are more memorable than their male counterparts. In each case, the male respected the female but wanted to "keep her in a bottle" so to speak; literally, in one case. The female truly wanted to be a good wife/partner but would always do things without the male's approval (I'm generalizing here), sometimes even things that they thought would be helpful. The underlying theme of Bewitched and I Dream of Jeannie is that females are more powerful than males and males are intimidated and confused by that power and have the tendency to want to restrain it and/or control it. These themes were brought out even more with the supporting characters such as Esmeralda and others. I was raised on both these series as a little kid and have been steadily going through them in their entirety on Netflix . . . in addition to Gilligan's Island (which is more than just a slapstick comedy series) and others.
I shouldn't be trying to write extended theses like this at 12:43 AM on Christmas Day. I may not be clearly making a point at the moment but I trust that a golden thread will be discerned and grasped. Or I'll come back and add further clarification later.
Great. I look forward. Sorry it took so long to post your comment, man. My wife banned me from the internet yesterday in favor of playing our new Wii.
Perhaps you could give us a little insight as to why your LDS women will be a little more in-depth?
I should add that if it looks like I'm picking on women it's just because that's all we've talked about in this post . . . so far. But I have had friends (guy friends, that is) who get married and have kids and can't seem to think beyond the husband/father role. I've remained single while basically all my friends got married and I know when that happens that you can't expect to hang out with them just like you used to but some of them act like it has brought their lives to a grinding halt. "Sorry, Christian. It's going to be hard to hang out now now that my wife and I have a kid. It really just sucks up all our time." While others are like, "Sure, come on over!" "Really, even though you have a kid now?" "Yeah, he'll be fine. He's used to us hanging out with our friends and going places with them." So everyone handles these things differently and these differences could be brought out as plot points in the series. The dilemma we all deal with is, "I know I'm supposed to be a wife/mother OR husband/father but does that mean I shouldn't have any individual interests? And if I do have any individual interests how much should I focus on them?"
Also, I just realized WALL*E is another movie where the male is bewildered and intimidated by the female's power.
I'll have more insights later. I'm always afraid I'm going to write a lot only to have my computer crash or a blackout or something right before I post.
There was some question earlier about how I was designing characters. Can I quote a little scripture here without you all thinking that I'm trying to preach to you?
It's D&C 137:9, which reads: 'For I, the Lord, will judge all men according to their works, according to the desire of their hearts.'
The way I read this, there are two aspects to judgment. First, there's an accounting for individual 'works'; and second, there's an accounting for an overall 'desire'. Now, I'm not going to get into a Sunday School lesson here, but this is the base that I used for getting my characters together.
There's been some discussion here about my feelings that female characters tend to get reduced down to a few stereotypical decisions without any real depth of discussion about motivation. These characters are defined by the choices they make, with little accounting for their underlying desire.
As I thought that scripture from the D&C kept popping into my mind, as I thought about character design, the question became: What is the process of refining one's overall 'desire' considering that is one half of how God is going to judge us? And writing that process became really interesting.
I've written earlier that I think there's been a lot of lazy writing in LDS film where characters are ultimately placed into black or white, good versus evil scenarios. I've also mentioned that, while our lives involve these moments, I thought they were few and far between. Most of the decisions that we make are good versus greater good decisions.
I really think that it's not the choices we make between good and evil that challenge or refine our desire. Those decisions reinforce existing desire. But it's the little decisions that we make that really define our desire, between right and right. I hope that makes sense.
I've suddenly got pressing business with the budget, so more later.
Dear Chris:
Thank you for being willing to explore women characters on your show.
I have been married for almost 8 years and the role of motherhood has been on my mind. . .especially as we do not have children yet.
There was not any waiting--except for on our side to have children. At the same time, motherhood is something that cannot be on my mind 24/7 or I would go crazy.
Sometimes I do.
Education and "being busy" are great ways to distract. As family growth was not happening, then I went for my Storytelling Masters. I will graduate next year. I also spend a lot of time as a professional storyteller (will be 15 years the end of this year--7 years in the art and 8 as professional).
Then there are the callings. As of now, I am a Wolf Cub Scout Leader and I teach the CTR 5s (4-year-olds going on 5).
With education, career, and callings, sometimes I wonder how things will balance out when we do have children. Family must come first, but what changes will I make with the present routines?
In the meantime, Mother's Day is a bitter/sweet holiday. I love to celebrate it for my mom's sake, but I can't help but be depressed that day, too.
People are well-intentioned but rarely say the right things to me during the "waiting" for a family phase.
One time, watching a baptism for my nephew, I felt tears down my face. And these were not the "tears because I felt the Spirit" kind. These were "will we have a child who will get baptized in the first place" kind.
My sisters-in law and mother-in-law noticed my sadness that baptism day. I felt guilty as this was to be a happy moment. I was not to be the center of attention!
I could go on with the conflicting emotions that a married LDS woman can feel.
I have confidence that you will portray the women on your show to the best of your ability.
Besides a call for auditions, there could be a call for interviews of LDS women. That would give you plenty of ideas for now and in the future!
Until we tell again,
Rachel Hedman
info@rachelhedman.com
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